6 Steps to Create Intimacy in Your Relationship

We have all seen their intimacy with our bare eyes, or even overheard the conversations of the people, who are madly in love with one another. They are stuck to one another by the ties of intimacy. Isn’t that what we all crave for in a relationship?

Relationships take time and enormous efforts from the parties on both the ends. The bond doesn’t develop overnight. You need to work on it constantly. You need to be patient enough to allow some time to sink in before the bond is developed. The more patient you are, the stronger will be the bond established between you and your partner.

Intimacy and relationships are said to be destined to happen to us. But I am a believer of the fact that unless you put some hard work on your part, destiny shall not embark its role.

With that being said, I, today, would like to outline 5 simple steps that will help you to create intimacy in your relationship.

How to increase intimacy in a relationship? What are the signs of emotional intimacy? I’m ready to reveal all your intimacy building questions.

Here goes the list:

1. Live in the Moment Whilst You Are with Your Partner

I’d highly recommend you to get rid of your phone or your laptop whilst you are having a conversation with your partner or hanging out with them. It makes them feel the sense of being an integral part of your life.

People in this era are hooked onto their screen every second of the day. They claim to be experts at multitasking but what they tend to overlook is the fact that the more you multitask, the lesser the time you allocate to each task. In this fashion, your partner will get a lot less time than they deserve.

Eventually, your partner might develop a feeling that you have gotten bored of them and that might hinder the process of creating intimacy. So, stay away from the gadgets at least for a time being.

2. Be Spiritual

Sharing about one’s spiritual beliefs is said to strengthen the relationship.

Whether it be a religious belief or the faith in the higher power, it helps to develop a deeper bond between you and your partner if you let them know about the faith you have in spirituality and ask about their spiritual inclination too.

It tends to help you understand and get to know each other on a deeper level.

3. Pay Attention

Intimacy is the resultant factor of paying attention to your partner’s words or actions.

In order to fully comprehend the words they utter or the act they put on, you need to be free of the errands that are held back at the back of your mind. De-stressing would be good, followed by trying to decipher the meaning out of their word and action.

Stay in silence, look into their eyes and hear what they have to say. Be reassuring but remember not to be intrusive if you want to create a deeper bond.

4. Be Supportive

The University of Iowa conducted a 5-year research to derive a conclusion that the newly wedded couple particularly highlighted the essence of 4 important kinds of support in a relationship, namely:

  • Physical and emotional support – Sharing, listening, hugging and holding hands
  • Esteem – Boosting one’s esteem and level of self-confidence
  • Informational – Imparting advice
  • Tangible – Assisting in additional responsibilities and resolving other issues

It’s important to know about the timing and necessity of each kind of support. For instance, no one likes to be given an extra dose of informational support because that would make them feel as if they are being controlled. The key is asking if they need help or support and letting them know that they must feel free to inform you if the need be felt.

5. Laugh Together

As yawning, laughter is pretty contagious too. Is there anyone who doesn’t like to laugh? I guess none.

Studies suggest that we are likely to change our behavioral patterns to fit into a conversation with some other person. If you spend a lot of time with a group of people who have a good sense of humor then we’ll laugh along with them and get a sense of inner peace and relaxation. Moreso, the bond amongst the people in the group also strengthens.

So is the case with relationships. Watch an episode or two of How I Met Your Mother or laugh together watching an episode of the Monty Python Series. It will not only boost your mood but will also strengthen the bond between the two of you.

6. Alternate Date Nights

The concept of dating tends to fade away once one gets into a relationship. And that somehow affects the bond which the partners share.

The whole concept of being in a relationship seems to be an absurd institution without a sense of enjoyment or intimacy which existed prior to the relationship commitments and in the early phases of dating.

In order to rekindle the fire and the sparkle between the partners, it’s advisable to plan the romantic date nights alternatively. Say A and B are in an exclusive relationship. So, in order to create intimacy, A can plan a romantic date on a Friday, and B can do so on the next weekend.


As easy as it is to fall in love, easier it might be to fall out of love. There are several elements of romance and sometimes, when things seem to be falling out of place, it might be difficult to figure out the element that needs to be worked out.

I am positive that the guidelines mentioned above will help you trace your way to the problem and sort it out before it’s too late.

I anticipate your relationship to take a positive turn after you take into consideration the points that are mentioned above.

Try them out and let me know how it goes.

I’ll be waiting.


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