5 Things to Do When Your Partner Asks for Space

Relationships have their own fair share of turbulence. The “no fuss, no muss” policy isn’t always applicable when it comes to dealing with the matters of the heart, for that’s what relationships account for.

Today might be completely different. Tomorrow holds a mystery within itself. We don’t really know what to expect and what’s in store for us for any time in the future. Today might seem to be a reflection of perfection, a place of finding peace in togetherness, a foundation of trust and a world of love. Tomorrow might be challenging. You never know what the future holds for you or anyone, for that matter.

What if your partner wakes up tomorrow and then asks for a “break” or some “space” from the relationship? How would you comprehend it?

Does space mean break-up? What would you do if your partner asks for space?

Here’s a list of 5 things you could do when your partner demands for some space.

1. Take Care of Yourself

Dealing with a difficult emotional situation sets you off your balance. It’s like PMSing if you can relate to it. When Aunt Flow visits us, we can’t help but feel irritated and get annoyed at the creaking sound of the door or just about anything else. We binge on unhealthy food, get messy and step out of our daily routine. We sob endlessly and yeah, that’s pretty much sums it up. So is the case when your partner asks for some space because you don’t know what to expect from them anymore.

Instead of being harsh on ourselves, don’t you think we should take care of ourselves? The harm has already been done on our emotional well-being. So, why harm ourselves further again?

It is not a tiresome task to take care of yourself. Drink plenty of water, get enough sleep, watch funny videos or some episodes of Impractical Jokers, and that will set you back in the jolly mood.

2. Be a Better Partner


What might be the reason behind him asking for some space? Maybe it’s time for a little introspection and please don’t presume that I’m blaming you for this entire situation. All I mean is assess your habits- does jealousy bother you, are you demanding more of his time when he leads a hectic work-life and so on.

It’s time to become a better partner by reflecting on all the things that happened throughout the course of your relationship. In this period of hiatus, let positivity surround you.

Work on yourself. Be kind to yourself and to everybody in your vicinity. Practice the art of giving. Meditate. Resolve your inner conflict. Be at peace with yourself. It will not only help you heal but will also make you a better person than you already are. Regardless of whether or not you get back together, self-improvement does no harm.

3. Let It All Out

I know that you are a very strong person but no matter how strong you are, it’s okay to shed tears sometimes. Allowing your emotions to flow isn’t a sign of weakness. It’s like cleansing your soul.

I have gone through emotional situations- whether it be parting ways with someone I loved or letting someone walk out of my life just because I was not in a position to be in a relationship. No matter whether you are the one who needs some space or he does, it hurts either way. And it’s okay to lean on someone, vent a little and cry some more.

The more you try to block your emotions, the more you’ll feel suffocated. Do nothing. Let it out.

4. Set Some Ground Rules

So what if he is the one who asked for space? You have enough of the rights to be vocal about your opinions. Since you were and may still be in the relationship in the near future, you can express your emotions to him. You’ve earned that right. Go for it. Do it for yourself.

Your boyfriend needs a break but will he come back? He is confused and needs space. But does he want a break but still contacts you?

He might not want to be in a relationship but he might want physical intimacy. He might say that it’s just a break but he might as well pine after someone else. You might need to discuss childcare issues( if you have a child or more). Therefore, it’s important to set some rules in advance just so you could be clear about what to expect and what not to throughout this period of transition.

And you can also set a time frame for this period of hiatus and agree on a date when the two of you would meet to decide if you’d want to continue with the relationship or call it off.


5. Ask for Support

Put this thought in your mind that you had a life even before you met this person. Remember the people who you used to spend time with whilst you were not in a relationship. Let them know about the situation ( provided they are trustworthy and aren’t known for spilling the beans everywhere they go). Ask them to help you feel better and I’m sure that they’ll come to your rescue.

Find a hobby. Workout. Meditate- peace in, peace out. Sing, dance, paint or do anything that uplifts you and aids in healing you. Get out of the misery as soon as you can because that’s not where you belong.


Don’t let negativity surround you. Remember that it’s just a break. If he wanted, he could have announced it as a breakup instead of asking for some space. It shows that he still wants to consider the relationship one more time.

Keep your hopes alive but don’t let them get too high. You never know what might happen. Live in the present and try to shine the beautiful smile of yours because it suits you just right. Take care!

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